Our destiny is the spiritual journey we are on in life; it’s who we influence, who influences us and how we release heaven here on earth. Our destiny is determined but detours are optional. Many times it takes us longer to get where we need to be than it should. God can use everything, even a wrong turn can become a U-turn, and God can turn anything around. There are some things that can help us avoid many of life’s detours as we move towards our dreams and destiny.
1. Wrong Time, Wrong place.
“It happened in the spring of the year, at the time when kings go out to battle, that David sent Joab and his servants with him, and allIsrael; and they destroyed the people of Ammon and besieged Rabbah. But David remained at Jerusalem.” 2nd Samuel 11:1. Be careful you don’t remain when you’re supposed to move. Beware of getting too comfortable. Faith is spelled, R I S K. Don’t be afraid to move when God begins to stir your heart. Don’t wait until you feel qualified. God values availability more than qualification.
2. Wrong relationships, or right relationships at the wrong time.
“Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready”. Song of Solomon 2:7 Message. “It was David’s inappropriate desire for Bathsheba, and not a giant that took him out!”. Be very careful who you commit yourself to and how you commit yourself. Many people end up in wrong romantic relationships with the wrong person, or in a relationship at the wrong time. Relationships at the wrong time can take you away from the destiny God has on your life. One warning sign is when you’re feeling lonely and you NEED a relationship to feel better. Another warning sign is when you isolate yourself from other people. Peace,confirmation and accountability. Be open to the counsel and correction of those you trust help you avoid wrong relationships and wrong timing.
3. Misplaced priorities.
” Elijah left and found Elisha plowing a field with a pair of oxen. There were eleven other men in front of him, and each one was also plowing with a pair of oxen. Elijah went over and put his own coat on Elisha. Elisha stopped plowing and ran after him. “Let me kiss my parents good-by, then I’ll go with you,” he said.“You can go,” Elijah said. “But remember what I’ve done for you.” Elisha left and took his oxen with him. He killed them and boiled them overa fire he had made with the wood from his plow. He gave the meat to the people who were with him, and they ate it. Then he left with Elijah and became his assistant.” 1 Kings 19:19-21 (CEV)
A priority is what we view as most important. Many times what we view as important is not the same as what the Father views as most important.
- Right relationships are always the highest priority of heaven, Elisha kissing his parents.
- Giving what I already have, not what I’m going to get. Elisha giving his oxen to the people around him. Don’t be tied to things, positions or titles.
Get free and be free in order to be connected to people and used by God.
4. The fear of man
” Then Saul said to Samuel, “I have sinned, for I have transgressed the commandment of the LORD and your words, because I feared the people and obeyed their voice.” 1 Samuel 15:24 (NKJV). Fear paralyzes us and puts the focus on us, self-preservation. Fear robs us of our faith. We are too afraid to take risks. Many times this is due to the fear of making mistakes or in being rejected. Fear keeps causes us to heed the voice of man over the voice of God, even if that voice is our own voice. The best way to overcome fear is to face it head on. David ran to Goliath. When we know who He is and who we are we can run with the promises of God in hand. David had 5 stones in his hand. What has God told you? What has He promised you? What has He done before? These are the stones you run with. Declare with your mouth and believe in your heart. Your faith is not in your faith, it’s in the person of Jesus Christ. Faith always overcomes fear. Faith when spoken out loud will silence the voice of the enemy.
5. Allowing excuses, emotions and feelings to dictate God’s call.
Feelings should never be trusted. Feelings are not always accurate. Feelings can tell us a problem but we should never rely on our feelings alone. Anytime we say, “I Feel like” before we complete a sentence we must also ask, “but what does the Lord say”? It’s also good to process with someone else you trust when you’re feeling something that affects you emotionally. Remember this progression: Assumptions lead to suspicion. Suspicion leads to dissension. Dissension leads to division and division leads to destruction. Excuses are the result of the fear of either saying yes or no. Many times we make excuses because we don’t want to take responsibility. King Saul’s fear and worry caused him to make an impulsive decision.
Impulsive decisions based on feelings can be costly, I personally have made many impulsive decisions that have cost me and have hurt others. “and I was worried that they would attack me here at Gilgal. I hadn’t offered a sacrifice to ask for the LORD’s help, so I forced myself to offer a sacrifice on the altar fire.” 1 Samuel 13:12 (CEV) ..” then I said, ‘The Philistines will now come down on me at Gilgal, and I have not made supplication to the LORD.’ Therefore I felt compelled, and offered a burnt offering.” 1 Samuel 13:12 (NKJV) Keeping in healthy accountability is the best way to stay focused on the spiritual journey as well as to keep moving towards the destiny God has for you. Remember, the best way to avoid deception is to trust someone more than you trust yourself.